Before being my husband’s primary caregiver, I had considerable experience with burnout. I experienced compassion fatigue as a psychologist and observed it in many health care professionals in hospitals and clinics. We were often trying to achieve standards of success, responsibility, work-ethic, etc. I was pre-occupied with trying to be "responsible" (just thinking the word would make me want to run for chocolate). And I was exhausted. Exhaustion and overwhelm make it nearly impossible to true care for others in our lives, especially caregiving for someone with a serious illness.
Since I was a teenager or maybe before, I had an interest in understanding relationships and what made healthy relationships. This interest is still what drives me today -- truly meaningful relationships that support, encourage, and challenge us to reach our full potential.
When I began studying to become a psychologist, I had high expectations that people only needed to learn certain skills like conflict resolution and relaxation breathing exercises to live highly satisfied and productive lives. When the reality hit me that it wasn’t quite that simple, I was disappointed.
Eventually, I realized that it wasn’t book knowledge that mattered, it was wisdom. Wisdom isn’t about just having the right answer, it’s about applying what you know in your life. Even people
I am a health and happiness psychologist. I had an amazing opportunity to care for my late husband with dementia that brought everything into focus: love, purpose, healing, self-care, and living without regrets. You can read more of my story here.
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