You know the story that I’m talking about. It usually starts with “he always” or “she never.” Our brains are wired to notice the negative it seems. And we usually practice telling this negative story over and over. Then we build stories around the negative events and look for more evidence to prove what we believe. Yuck!
The good news is that we have smart thinking brains. Ah haaaa. When we want to, we can make a conscious effort to change or re-write our stories. During the time of grieving is a great
I had a life coach who once told me that I was not my feelings. I was not my sadness, anger, or elation. I understood what she was saying intellectually but found it difficult to stop reacting as if my world revolved around my feelings and emotional reactions. If I had negative feelings, it seemed as if they would never end, and I did many things to distract myself from feeling such as reading, working, watching movies or television, trying to “fix” other people, and so on.
When I was grieving my late husband John, the pain of the loss was so intense that I couldn’t
I am a health and happiness psychologist. I had an amazing opportunity to care for my late husband with dementia that brought everything into focus: love, purpose, healing, self-care, and living without regrets. You can read more of my story here.
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