You feel exhausted by taking care of someone, pushed to the breaking point, completely used up. You have an intense need for rest and feel like the solution is to have some time away for yourself. You believe if you could only get ahead of the to-do list or find someone really responsible to take over some of your chores, you could get the rest you need.
But it's the paradox.
It's like the idea of relaxation breathing or a massage. It seems like it should relieve stress, and it does temporarily. Have you ever noticed how briefly that feeling of relaxation lasts? Taking a vacation, reading a book, soaking in a bubble bath. They feel wonderful when we do them, but if we approach our problems the same way after the break, it isn’t long before the unbearable tension returns.
Are you ready to try a different approach? Being present in the moment can actually melt away worry and tension.
You have probably heard of mindfulness as it is a popular concept these days. Mindfulness is not difficult to understand or take months of study. The next blog will give you the basics. If you want to start on your own right away, my favorite book is Reality Slap by Russ Harris.
I am a health and happiness psychologist. I had an amazing opportunity to care for my late husband with dementia that brought everything into focus: love, purpose, healing, self-care, and living without regrets. You can read more of my story here.
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